YOU SHOULD GO & LOVE YOURSELF.
One of the first steps to this whole journey of healthiness is learning your identity, and the next step is learning to love yourself like your Papa loves you. In a previous post, WHO AM I?, I talked about how declarations are powerful, and shedding what others said about you for the adaption of what He says about you is a crucial shift. Once you know who He says you are, you have to start taking steps to believe it yourself, to loving yourself. The journey alone of learning to love yourself is exactly that, a journey. It is a day-to-day process of waking up and choosing.
Are you married? Well, if you aren’t, I will give you a little insight into what it looks like. If you are, this will relate to you. Most single people I have come across view marriage as this amazing “feeling-fest”. They see it as two people who are so in-love, so head-over-heels, so giddy with excitement, that they just have to be together for the rest of their life. While some of that may be true, that is only half the story. Marriage is about choosing your spouse. It is about waking up, day-after-day, year-after-year, looking next to you, and saying “I am going to choose to love you, even when I don’t feel like it. Even when you don’t earn it. Even when I have every worldly justified reason not to.” This is the kind of love that God has for us – it’s completely unconditional. Under this, I choose to love my husband even when He doesn’t take the trash out, or fill up the car with gas, or whatever little things he does or doesn’t do that set you off.
In the same pattern of choosing, you must choose to love yourself. It’s not selfish or conceited or pretentious, it’s healthy. You need to wake up every day, look yourself in the mirror, and say “Today, I choose you. Today, I invest in you. Today, I will love you. No matter what happens, how you act, what you do, what mistakes you make, none of it. Regardless of all circumstances, I choose you.” If you spend all your time investing in relationships, work, your home, your family, etc. and no time building your foundation (taking care of yourself), everything will fall apart. Whether they say it or not, the people in your life need you to be the best version of yourself. People need you to be prepared, confident, consistent, encouraging, and positive, to name a few. These characteristics are cultivated in the times where you take care of yourself, where you invest in your healthiness. This by far, is the least selfish decision you can make, because you are preparing yourself to be the best version of yourself in order to be your best version for other people.
All in all, I want the best for you. My journey of discovering some of this hasn’t been easy, but I fully believe that I am meant to share truths I have learned – and hopefully they empower you to prioritize healthiness.