Growing up, your view of who you are is shaped by what those around you say. Those influential adults that have a say in your life, those mean kids at school who shouldn’t have a say in your life, that cute girl or boy in your class whose every word you hang on – all these different people around you get to speak into who you believe you are. Whether you had a healthy relationship with your parents and they spoke positively into your life, or a negative relationship that was filled with shame, condemnation, and insults – every word they said rests deep in your heart and sits at the core of who you believe you are.

As you get older, the list only expands of who gets to take a seat in the judgment zone. Teachers, professors, bosses, one-night stands, current friends, ex-friends, ex-boyfriends or girlfriends, the barista at the coffee shop, mean (or nice) neighbors, grandmas, grandpas, pastors, the list goes on and on. Society is set up hierarchically, where there are those at the top, and those at the bottom. There are those you listen to, and those you are allowed to preach over. There are constant voices flowing at you on a daily basis, and if you don’t learn to manage the volume you allow those voices to have, you will be left with your head spinning and your heart hurting.

For so many friends, I have seen moments where words spoken over them have turned into phrases they believed about themselves. Phrases such as:

You aren’t worthy.
You aren’t good enough.
You’re ugly.
You never do a good job.
You always mess up.
What a failure.

Any of these sound familiar? So quickly, these words declared over us can turn into adopted declarations about our identity that we simply accept as truth. So how do we change this? How do we even begin to shed these heart-piercing words and learn who we were made to be?

If we let what other people say control what we think about ourselves, we are giving up power; a power that belongs to us. From the beginning of creation, we have been given authority by God. Not only that, but we have been given an identity that is so much greater than what others say because He is so much greater than what other’s say. So stop letting others tell you who you are, and figure out who your Creator says you are.

Who were you made to be? What does God think about you? Does he just think you’re a sinner that is ungrateful and save-able? NO.  At a very basic level, you can be confident that you were worth enough that he came to ensure that your relationship with Him could be better than ever. The well-known verse John 3:16 says that God came because he loved “the whole world,” you’re included in that descriptor, no doubt. God doesn’t like separation, he values relationship. He wanted you to have the freedom to choose Him; the freedom to pursue a relationship with Him. This freedom will allow you to rest in His comforting arms and hear who you really are. The freedom to choose empowerment, perfect love, and everlasting encouragement over the false replacements this world can offer.

You are loved. You are worthy. You are powerful. You are wanted. You are enough.

He’s bigger than the lies that have been spoken over you, bigger than the fears you have, bigger than the false identity that you are carrying right now, bigger than all of it. All you have to do is accept it. All you have to do is embrace the fact that your true identity is found in Him – the One who knew you would be before you were even born, and who knit you together in your mother’s womb. This is the One who gives you authority and power to step into who you really are – not who other’s say you are.

So start asking your Papa – who do you say I am? What do you think about me? Rest easy as He speaks to His beloved child and tells you — and He is a good, good Papa, so I am confident that His declarations over you will be encouraging and filled with truth.

And remember, what you say is so powerful – words create, after all. So speak truth to yourself, even when you aren’t fully convinced. Start repeating who He says you are. Start writing down TRUE declarations of your identity given to you by the Father. Watch as these words create life and replace all those false words spoken over you in your past. You are more than what they said you were. You are a beloved and treasured child of God.

With Encouragement,